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Women in Politics: What Does Success Mean to You?

Librada Estrada

Si Tu Quieres is excited to highlight an incredible Latina that has been very active in the world of politics for 20 years and is doing great work to develop others who desire to impact and transform their communities and organizations—Patricia Campos-Medina.

Patricia Campos-Medina is a leadership development professional with the Union Leadership Institute at Cornell University. She is currently the President of Latinas United for Political Empowerment (LUPE PAC) in NJ, and a founding Board Member for PODER PAC, a national political action committee by Latinas for Latinas.  She served as political and legislative director for several unions including UNITE, UNITEHERE and SEIU.  She also worked as a campaign consultant in many local, state and federal political campaigns including US Rep. Bill Pascrell, Mayor Cory Booker and Senator Cory Booker. In 2008, she served as part of the Transition Team for President Barack Obama.  She was born in El Salvador and immigrated to the USA at the age of 14 years old and now resides in NJ. You can follow her on Twitter at @pcamposmedina or e-mail her at patriciaLUPEPACpres@gmail.com


It has been quite a year of presidential politics already.  And as the attacks on Hillary’s record continues, I cannot help but think about the challenges that women who work in politics face daily as they attempt to be engaged and win on their own terms.  Not all women might like Hillary, or might connect with her like some of us do, but what her experiences reveal is that in politics, acting like a man can be an “asset and a curse.”  How we learn to navigate this duality is what helps us stay in the game and succeed on our own terms.

I have been immersed in Democratic and labor politics for the majority of 20 years of my professional life.  I have run labor political programs and have been part of teams that run national presidential campaigns, local mayoral and city council campaigns.  I worked at the highest levels of policy making in Congress, and developed sharp elbows getting resolutions passed at the local city councils in cities across the United States.  I have also been in the backroom cutting deals, and I have been in the streets protesting those who are behind closed doors making those deals.  Through all of these experiences, I accomplished a lot but I have also gotten burned and deflated, been excluded and vilified, and I have been told at times that if only I knew how the game is played, I could have more power and influence.

Learning the Game

So, what is the game?  And what does success in politics looks like for women?  I don’t think there is one easy answer for either question, but let’s start by stating the fact that being successful in politics is not necessarily a measure of your level of financial success or your access to power.  There are some women in politics that have both and yet they still feel as outsiders, constantly fighting for recognition for their contributions.  

Learning to negotiate for your interest and for your agenda is a crucial component of learning the game, but the most important one is your ability to build alliances and make those alliances help you build a record of accomplishments.  You also need thick skin to survive the ride and to accept that the qualities that help men be recognized as leaders, do not automatically work for women.  

Why? Because there is a double standard in politics. Qualities that are seen as positive in men, such as confidence and aggressiveness, are seen as negative in women.  Hence, in order to use those qualities to our advantage, we must master the complex art of duality; you must be self-assured and at the same time intentionally learn to transform your confidence into determination and purpose.

So what is the first step in achieving success in politics?  It starts with having a clear purpose.

Your Purpose for Politics

If your goal is to have a future in politics then you must have a plan and a strategy, and be clear about why you are here, in the game.  Why do you want to get into politics?  Is it to build power for yourself?  For your community?  Or is it to accomplish a policy change you care deeply about? 

There is nothing wrong with wanting influence and power.  Men want that all the time and no one vilifies them for it.  But you must know that the stakes are higher for you. If you are a woman, more often than not, you don’t have a “Godfather” to show you the ropes.  You must negotiate the rules on your own and along the way you must learn to develop men and women as allies who will take an interest in your success. (Look for my next piece on cultivating male allies.)

Politics is a Male-Dominated Field

Once you have defined your purpose, you must understand that politics is a male dominated field with access to the inner circle granted more easily to those who are close to money and power.  For Latina women, those two access points are limited given that most of the time we have neither.  We come to politics from the outside, as activists trying to break down the walls and demanding power by mobilizing our community. 

I came to politics as a union/community organizer, someone with a demand.  I believed, and still do, that politics is a tool in our arsenal to fight economic inequality and to have a voice in the future of our country.  Because I was a good organizer, I was recruited to lead union members political activities and to convince them to contribute their hard earned money to politics.  I had people power and that could not be ignored.

But even with people power, I still had to battle the sexism of politics.  I am after all, an immigrant woman with a thick accent. Even with two Ivy League degrees, I had to prove constantly that I didn’t get the job because someone did me a favor.  In my 20s and 30s, I sometimes chose to brush off sexual advances, ignore sexist jokes, and hold my feelings close to my chest so I wouldn’t be labeled too sensitive and or irrational. 

My constant battle was always to be able to cultivate professional relationships with powerful men that were based on my union’s agenda, my campaign skills and my intellect.  I played the game and while I survived and thrived, I always felt a sense that maybe if I had been a man, I would have gotten more done.  Despite this feeling, though, deep in my soul I always knew I had made the best of every situation.

When I entered my late 30’s and 40s, I decided to take a leap of faith and try something new.  I stepped aside from my union political career to have a family, build my own consulting practice and to focus on helping union members become effective leaders.  Politics is a passion for me so I am still engaged in it as an advisor to campaigns and to other Latina women trying to make a mark in politics.

So, if you are a Latina who loves politics, a Latina who wants to run for office or just a political activist who wants to shake up the status quo, I offer the following tips based on what I have learned in the last 20 years of political and campaign work:

  1. Be clear about why you are in the game and be proud of it: You want to run for office? Awesome. Own it.  Learn from the best political candidates and develop a strategy for yourself so that you can run your own campaign. 
  2. Raise your own money: But if you want to run for office, then learn how to raise your own money so that you can be independent and drive your own agenda.  My grandfather, Papita Chema always said, “el que te da el dinero, te controla,” or “whoever gives you the money, controls you.” So, raise your own money. 
  3. Identify your tribe: You want to change the world?  Fix the educational system in your district?  Great causes.  Organize your tios and tias and all your cousins, high school, college friends and your fellow church parishioners. They have to be your first round of volunteers and supporters who help you both with money and by getting others to join your cause.  Than, map out your next round of supporters based on your agenda and your interest.  You grow as a leader when your base of supporters keeps expanding.
  4. Be prepared and always be willing to learn something new: Learn everything you need to know about your issue(s) and be twice as prepared than the men in the room.  And if you don’t know something, listen to what people are saying. Show empathy but don’t fake it.  Be honest that you are not an expert and that you will research the issue and come back with answers.  Faking it or lying about knowing something doesn’t work for women.  We must find the balance between being knowledgeable and not acting like “know it all’s.” 
  5. Be aggressive on defining your expectations to others: You want to learn a new skill in a campaign?  Ask for the job.  Be confident that you will learn it and be clear that you will not get stuck doing the same thing over and over again.  Even if you start at the bottom, by the end of a campaign, you should be in charge of something.  Don’t just hang around waiting to be recognized for your hard work.  If you are a political consultant, find out what other consultants are getting paid for the same type of work.  You have a skill they need so don’t allow them to undervalue your work.   
  6. Open doors for others: If you are a Latina candidate or a campaign consultant, identify young Latina/o operatives and put them to work on your campaign.  Build a cadre of young activist so you can tap their skills later and build your own network.  Have you ever noticed most campaigns always look like 20s something young male college kids? Well, eventually those young male kids become the top earning campaign consultants.  We must build our own pipeline of campaign operatives who are women. 
  7. Empower other women:  Be intentional about having other women voices and experiences around you.  Make them part of your inner circle and assign them key roles on your campaign that will build their skills set.  And if you are a staffer or consultant, use the “shine theory” to build other women allies; if a woman has a great idea in a meeting, support it and make a point to give her credit for it.  This practice denies men the opportunity to ignore it and later claim it as their own.  Don’t be afraid to let other women shine. By building others up, we also build ourselves up as authentic leaders.
  8. Trust your instincts: Oprah talks about how women most valuable asset is our “gut feeling,” our instinct.  There is something innate that makes us feel when something is not good for us. We feel it in our gut or that place right above the top of your stomach that tingles when you are not sure about something. When that happens, don’t ignore it.  If you are being pushed to make a decision that doesn’t feel right, to hire someone you know won’t work out, or you are being triggered by aggressive behavior, walk away.

I have failed some times to listen to my gut instinct and it has gotten me into some bad situations.  But if you make a mistake, don’t be so hard on yourself.  My biggest learning moments have come from situations that went south—either because I lost my composure or because I made the wrong decision.  My test for surviving such moments has always been staying true to myself, living up to my values, and knowing that my integrity was never compromised.

At the end of the day, politics is like any other career. If you love it, you will figure out a way to be good at it.  And like any other job, in order to be successful, you must have a purpose and a strategy to get to the finish line.  Give yourself benchmarks to meet and goals to reach. 

Today I am still in the game cultivating leaders as a trainer and adviser, helping other women and labor leaders discover their own power so they can become authentic leaders with the courage to transform our society.  I have accomplished more than I ever imagined I would as a girl growing up in El Salvador.  And as I continue in my path to build a better world for my children, I keep Winston Churchill’s words as a mantra; 

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal.  It is the courage to continue that counts.”

So as you find your path, I urge you to have the courage to be authentic, to challenge the status quo, to build other women up and to keep pushing until you get to your final destination.

Your turn: How do you try to affect change in your community?  How do you define success in your life?

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The Platinum Rule-A Tool for Building Better Relationships

Librada Estrada

Shaking handsHave you ever had someone say to you, “I thought all Latinos hug and kiss when they greet”? Often, people think that I automatically will hug and kiss someone on the cheek as a way of greeting because I am Latina. The truth of the matter is that this, like many others things, is based on individual likes and dislikes. Yes, it is part of how I was raised and it also depends on the setting and who the other person is.

For example, one time I was interacting with a couple. The woman and I had been friends for many years. Although I had not had many interactions with her husband, because we had his wife in common I felt that he was “part of the family.” I noticed that when I hugged him before departing there seemed to be some discomfort on his part. I thought that I might have imagined it so I did not pay much attention to it and headed out the door. Shortly thereafter I saw them again. When the same thing happened I decided to check out what my intuition was telling me. I asked his wife if I was making him uncomfortable by hugging him. She shared that yes, because of their cultural norms he wasn’t comfortable. They were Pakistani. After profusely apologizing I asked what would be an appropriate way for me to say hello and goodbye. She shared that no other person had asked her about this before and appreciated that I had. Since then, any time we see each other I shake his hand and we don’t have that stress.

Platinum Rule

This interaction got me thinking about how I interact with others and vice versa, the stereotypes that are attached to groups and those that we perpetuate. It also brings to mind the platinum rule. Unlike the golden rule, which states that you should treat others the way YOU want to be treated, the platinum rule focuses on treating another person the way THEY would like to be treated.

Many of us have heard the golden rule and probably live by it. There is nothing wrong with it-if you want to be treated with respect, treat others respectfully; if you want to be heard, be willing to hear the other person, etc. It does come in handy. Realistically speaking though, you cannot control how others will react or treat you. You can only control your behaviors and reactions and how you interact with others.

This ties into emotional intelligence or EI. According to Daniel Goleman, credited with popularizing the topic, EI has to do with personal and social competence. On the personal front it involves being self-aware and managing oneself. The social side encompasses being socially aware and managing relationships and interactions. The more that you are aware of your triggers the better you can regulate your behaviors. Likewise, when you are in tune with what is happening with others, the more likely you are to better handle a situation and produce a positive outcome.

How do the platinum rule and EI build better relationships?

I prefer to think in a quiet space so I would often close my office door. I did not realize it but fellow staff interpreted this to mean that I wanted to be left alone. When I found this out I made it a point to open the door after a specific amount of time or even walk around and take a few minutes to have face time with others in the office. I still closed the door to meet my need and I modified my behavior to encourage others to see me as a resource and to share that I was available. Eventually staff felt more comfortable about engaging me in various projects.

Think about how your current behaviors and actions are inviting individuals to interact with you. Building relationships involves making it about the other person, not just what you will get out of it. You need to be open to learning new information and different perspectives (awareness) as well changing your approach individually and/or with a group (behavior management).

Will this automatically have others treating you they way you want to be treated? Nope, there are no guarantees. And, maybe it might help others start seeing you in a different light as a partner, supervisor or friend because you make them feel welcomed and respected.

Si tú quieres, to find out how others want to be treated:

  • Be curious-ask questions about how they prefer to receive or gather information, their interests, projects, etc.
  • Pay attention to the preferences of others-you can learn a lot from individual behaviors. Which of your colleagues and friends prefer to communicate by email, in person or text; who likes to brainstorm out loud and who sends you their ideas after the meeting; who only likes to eat X type of food.
  • Go outside of your comfort zone-As I shared, I modified my behavior in both examples to meet others half way. If you are more extroverted and enjoy being around others, invite someone who prefers one to one interactions to a coffee or lunch with just you or a small group of people. Be open to sharing your ideas in a group setting if you usually sit and observe.
  • Do not make assumptions-Put aside what you think you know about a person or group.
  • Modify your behavior-After you gain insight or learn about the other, be open to doing things a little different.

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Being Casual With Your Word Diminishes Your Power

Ana Polanco

impeccableHow many times in the day do you tell a lie? Some of you are nodding your head yes and many of you are thinking almost never. So let me ask it a different way:

  • Have you ever told your boss or a colleague the project is good when in fact you think it sucks?
  • Did you ever tell yourself you’re going to the gym or an exercise class and keep putting off until tomorrow which never comes?
  • Did you ever miss a deadline and then set a new deadline only to miss that one too?
  • Have you ever invited someone out for coffee and then never follow up only to have them contact you to confirm if it’s happening? Do you do it often?

Every time we miss a deadline, over commit, break a promise, and tell a lie to make someone feel good, we devalue our words and who we are. We lose power, we break trust, and our capacity to lead is diminished.

Our words have power. What you say, think and do matters. Our words and commitments are the place from which we exert our leadership. Commitments can build trust, confidence and power.

If you’re a people pleaser, very social, highly maternal or in a people pleasing business this is especially hard. We all want to give people what they want. It is in our innate nature to do so. And so when we over commit, we not only fail to give people what they want, we also lose power. We are seen as untrustworthy, weak, and powerless.

To be an effective leader you must learn to be impeccable with your word with yourself and with others.

So what’s getting in the way of being impeccable with your words?

Set Realistic Deadlines! If you rarely meet a deadline, it’s because you don’t have a clear sense of how long something takes. This is something I am constantly working on. The trick is to come up with a deadline and then add more days. Most of us over commit on deadlines not considering all the interruptions that will occur along the way.

Avoid Perfection. Sometimes we miss a deadline because we think our work is not in a perfect state. Our work is imperfect so we get stuck and suffer from analysis paralysis.  Sending imperfect work is OK. Nobody expects it to be perfect and in fact building in time for editing and feedback loops is what avoids analysis paralysis. Building in time for editing into a deadline is key. No work is the reflection of one person. We are constantly learning and drawing from the world around us. If you think of your work as a collective effort it will be easier to let it go (Cue Frozen soundtrack!).

Communicate. I know sometimes stuff happens-- an emergency, a last minute situation. If you are going to miss a deadline and you know or sense it, you need to circle back and renegotiate the deadline, keeping in mind that you are impacting someone else’s work. The key is to communicate early and often.

The exception and not the rule. Missing a deadline or rescheduling a coffee should be the exception and not the rule. If you find you always have an emergency or cause to cancel or reschedule, then you have to step back and evaluate. Something bigger is at play in your life. Maybe you have given away control of your life to someone or something else.

Take a breath and listen. When someone invites you to an activity, a board of directors, a fundraising effort, or even a coffee, it is okay to pause, take a breath and listen to what your heart and mind is telling you. That pause helps you make more strategic external commitments. Even when I am sure I want to spend time with someone, I always say something like “I would love to and I need to check and see when it’s possible or if I have the time to take up the commitment.”

Telling someone you will get back to them speaks volumes about integrity and love. It says I care enough about you and myself that I need to check my other commitments. This ultimately strengthens trust between colleagues and solidifies the foundation of any relationship, personal or professional.

It’s a work in progress. Be kind to yourself. Let’s face it. We all lie and we probably do it more often than we even realize. Some of the lies are subtle and some are not. The goal here is not perfection. The road back to impeccability will take time and practice to break old habits.

Your turn:

Si tú quieres, here’s an exercise you can do this week to become more impeccable with your word:

  • Make a list of the ways in which you lie to yourself and others.
  • At the beginning of each day tell yourself I will be impeccable with my word. This includes thoughts to yourself where you may be making personal commitments.
  • At the end of each day, grab a piece of paper and write down the places where you thought your word was less impeccable than it should have been.
  • The next day work on those things
  • Keep making a daily list for a week and see how it goes.

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Six Ways Passion Fuels Your Dream

Librada Estrada

PicMonkey CollagePassion, according to Websters Dictionary, is “a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something.” Lately I have been reading articles that discuss it. Some emphasize that you should follow your passion in order to be happier and find more satisfaction at work. Others stress that you must first focus on making a living and then honor your passion. What do you think? Ana and I have written about visioning and taking action to make your dreams a reality. However, where does passion fit in?

Over the last few months I have reflected on my choices to date and the focus of my work. I have had an amazing journey because I have been able to honor my passions in different ways. From a very early age I knew that I wanted to impact the health of others. As a young child, and witnessing extreme poverty during family trips to Mexico, I had decided that I wanted to help people and that I could do that best with a career in medicine.

Once in college the reality of how long it might actually take, the cost, and differences between population versus individual based health care set in. Suddenly, my interest to help others began to get clearer and I realized that while the idea of serving people through medicine was good, it wasn’t actually my cup of tea. It no longer was as appealing as I originally had believed and my enthusiasm changed.

So, I decided to put aside my dream of medicine. Still not satisfied with what I knew as my options at the time, but knowing that I wanted to be an agent of change, I searched for different opportunities. While working for a few years after graduating from college, I volunteered at different organizations and I fell upon public health. As I learned more about it I realized that I had discovered another way to tap into my passions. It combined behavior change, psychology, health, and population based impact—all of which were areas I was excited about and were components I wanted in my profession! I was ecstatic to be able to combine so many elements that were important to me.

Eventually I graduated with a Masters in Public Health and worked in the field for almost 15 years. I had the opportunity to work on various topics at different organizations. At core, all of them related to workforce and leadership development. Without realizing it, my passion had morphed from focusing on health and access to care, to enabling individuals to make choices for positive health outcomes and, eventually, to building systems and infrastructure.

Now, I focus on helping women embrace their unique leadership style and kick self-doubt to the curb so they can have more fulfilling lives through my coaching practice. I transitioned from working at a non-profit organization to having my own consulting practice. Although I don’t like the administrative side of having my own business, I love working with my clients and witnessing their growth!

Regardless of which camp you fall into, work first/passion second or vice versa, having passion in your life helps you enjoy life more and contributes to you being more enthusiastic about what you want to achieve in spite of things not being perfect or easy. Here is what I have come to appreciate about passion and my visions.

  1. Passions are dynamic—I went from wanting to cure people to preventing adverse health outcomes to leadership development. And, I was excited about each while working on these areas. Similar to dreams, as you move through different life stages and have successes, your passions will change based on your experiences, knowledge, family, commitments, culture, values, etc.
  2. Find your why—For me, at the heart of all of this, is that I want to help and empower people. Being aware of why you are excited and passionate about something will motivate you to take action. Watch the Simon Sinek video on this topic.
  3. Use them to refuel—I was fortunate that I was honoring my passion through my work and yet, there were times when this wasn’t enough. I had to find different ways to feel joy and be motivated. Be flexible about how your passions fit into your life and honor them in some way. Don’t deny your passions! This is especially important when you are not able to be enthusiastic about things and need to recalibrate or need a shot in the arm to get moving.
  4. We have more than one passion—Each of us has multiple interests. In addition to my family and friends, I love card making, photography, cooking, and facilitation. You cannot always focus on each one or all at the same time. When you aren’t being fueled by one, tap into another.
  5. They are unique to you—I get excited discussing leadership development and coaching. This might not even be on your radar—who cares! Like your visions, it’s about what gives you deeper meaning and about what you love. It isn’t about achieving approval. What do you enjoy?
  6. They align with your vision—Following your passions doesn’t make life perfect or easy. You still have to do the work, face your fears, and be willing to risk. Action is the cornerstone of achieving what you want in life. Working on what you are passionate about helps you know that you are heading in the right direction and moving toward your purpose.

Your turn: How does passion show up in your life?

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How is your vision guiding your actions in 2015?

Librada Estrada

PathAs the calendar flipped to a new year, did you ponder what a life different than the one you are currently leading could bring? More significantly, has this different life been an ongoing dream? I was like that for a while. Since 2009 I dreamed of having my own coaching practice. In the back of my mind I dreamt about working with people that wanted to change their lives and be more fulfilled. I would think about it and discuss it in terms of “…one day” and not really doing anything to get me going. Finally in 2012 I decided that it was time to focus on it as my vision for the next phase of my life. I declared it to my husband and family and as things came up and decisions had to be made I used my vision to help guide the outcomes. It wasn’t until I started thinking about this as my purpose that I started taking concrete steps to make it happen. Now I have the opportunity to work with women to help them turn their visions into realities by embracing their unique leadership style and kicking self-doubt to the curb. My clients are ready to take action. They are tired of just thinking about things wistfully and want a new reality.

One of the first things that I do with a coaching client is ascertaining what she wants to accomplish from our partnership. What is her vision? How does she want to be different? What does she want to achieve? Asking the question gives the person permission to share their dreams and desires. Sometimes it is the first time that they are sharing this with someone else. It begins to make their vision something more than just a thought in their head or a whisper in their heart.

PURPOSE

Visions give us purpose and serve as our north star. It is a key component that determines what we want to achieve from the different areas of our lives. When a decision has to be made, a clear vision feeds our inner compass and helps guide our choices that move us closer to our north star. Additionally, knowing our vision serves to inspire us particularly on those days when we start questioning ourselves and decisions. It helps reminds us of what we are trying to achieve through our actions or what we might fail to accomplish by deciding not to take action.

CLARITY

Knowing what your purpose is brings clarity. It is not enough to want, say, your own business, or lead an entire company division. Clarity involves adding specificity to it. If, for example, having your own business is your dream, then you will need to determine the market segment of your potential clients, the services or goods your business will provide, the start-up costs, by when it will be established, etc. The more details you have, the clearer your vision. I specifically focus on leadership and life coaching. At this point in my life, family is important. Therefore, rather than make it a full time commitment I work around my family schedule. Although I work with some men, my primary audience is women because I want to help empower them and help them find their leadership voice. Once I started thinking about my vision it made it much easier for me to know who I wanted to approach, about why and how I relate to them.

Maybe you wish to only focus on what you don’t want in your life – great! Use that information to help you identify what you do want by taking the negative and turning it into a positive. For example, if you know that you don’t want to have a job with a lengthy commute, turn that into a position that will allow you to telecommute from home on a regular basis, involve a flexible work schedule, or one that has satellite offices. Or maybe you want to escape a toxic work environment and prosper in one that is healthy, conducive to professional development and where colleagues hold each other in high regard. The point is that the details provide strategic information.

ROADMAP

A strategic life roadmap is what differentiates someone that is simply dreaming from someone that is going after what they want. It provides career/personal markers that make it difficult to get lost. By taking time to identify what your goals are, you will know what you want to achieve, making it easier to begin laying the groundwork of your roadmap. A clear vision gives you structure and specificity. You know which way to start moving and you gain insight as to what are some of the steps that have to happen to achieve it. Moreover, by identifying what your treasure is you identify potential measures of success. What you thought of as an unattainable dream soon becomes a series of manageable actions. As you take action you begin to have a sense of success and accomplishment.

Having different checkpoints on your journey makes your vision more manageable and realistic. As Lao-tzu stated, “the journey of a thousand miles begins with a step.” Sometimes we might think that our vision will take forever to reach, but each time we take action, even a small one, we are closer to it.

There is more than one way to identify your vision-clustering, mind-mapping, strategic planning, brainstorming, etc., methods. The process doesn’t matter since it’s about creating resonance for you.

As you think about your vision, keep the following in mind:

  • Carve out time-yes, we keep bringing this one up and it is a key component. Move yourself from distractions, create a cozy place and focus on what is it that you want for yourself and/or your family. Consider the following questions:
    • who will be in your life
    • what will you be doing
    • what stories are you sharing
    • what stories will others say about you
    • where will you live
    • what does a typical day look like
    • why is this vision important to you
  • Visions are individual and they change/are modified-I modify my visions on an annual basis and as I achieve them (bought a house-check, had children-check, started a business-check; create my own workshops-in progress, etc.).
  • You can have a vision for different areas of your life-I have one for personal areas of my life (mother, wife, volunteer) and professional (business owner, partner).
  • Make it tangible-journal, create a vision board, digital product, paint it, take pictures of it, etc. It is more powerful when you can see it-whether written in your own writing, on a poster or image.
  • Focus on the destination and not on how you will arrive (at first)-allow yourself to dream, to paint the picture of the life or accomplishment you desire. Once it you have it down, begin to consider how you will make it happen.

Your turn: What is your vision for 2015?

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